The size of the overreaction tells you the depth of the ancient wound. If someone starts screaming at you when you said, “Could you please do this for me? Could you please pass me that dish?” “Oh, you’re controlling me. Oh, you hate me.” Let’s
say you say, “I need to go to your significant other. I need to spend today working.” And he or she starts screaming at you and says, “You don’t love me. You don’t
care about me,” and starts crying or ranting. That kind of a hysterical reaction, it makes it very clear to you that you have touched an ancient wound from that person’s childhood. That person probably had a mother or a father that didn’t spend a lot of time with them or maybe that mother or father worked too much so as a child, your significant other didn’t feel loved. I hope I’m making sense here.
And even for yourself, the more you develop this fluency and intimacy with your heart set, we’re not taught to do this in school, but it’s a practice and the more you practice it, the better you’re going to get.
And the more you do this Heartset work, the more you’re going to go, “Ah, you know what? I just overreacted in that meeting at work, or with this supplier, or in this situation, or with my child, or with my significant other.” And the more you
see those overreactions, you stop blaming because every time you point a finger at someone in your outer life, there are at least three fingers pointing back at you.
And one of the keys to being an empire-maker is APR, Absolute Personal Responsibility. So when you overreact, just remember that is a doorway into heart set healing. It is a glamorous and glorious opportunity for you to start to dissolve even more of that old field of hurt, so you let it out of your system, which upgrades your emotional life, which upgrades your intellectual life, which upgrades your
energy, which upgrades your productivity, which upgrades your performance, which ultimately upgrades your prosperity and your impact on humanity.
